tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45382860254952477502024-02-08T02:56:27.044-08:00GRIEF and "FINDING THE SUN AGAIN"Devised to give grievers and the people who desire to walk with them in their grief journey by providing; knowdedge, understanding, care and suggestions to get them through this most trying cycle in life.
If you need to reach me please write me at: www.feelingthesunagain@yahoo.com and I will get back to you A.S.A.PLaurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-9768587896977954312009-02-22T12:45:00.000-08:002009-02-22T12:48:29.267-08:00"If there must be trouble let it be in my day, that my child may have peace."<br /><br /> -Thomas PaineLaurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-63682921132874866812009-01-06T09:16:00.001-08:002009-01-06T09:21:52.656-08:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:130%;color:#663333;"> "That though the radiance which was once so bright be now forever taken from my sight. Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendor in the grass, glory in the flower. We will grieve not, rather find strength in what remains behind." -William Wordsworth</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-7282113899207008952008-12-26T05:41:00.000-08:002008-12-26T05:46:36.501-08:00Someone's Missing<span style="font-family:georgia;color:#3366ff;">Last night we went to Grandma’s house<br /> To play, laugh, eat and open presents<br />There was something missing,<br /> The extra joy that should have been present<br />The smile and laughter that would make everyone cheer.<br /><br />Kids are running around and getting balloons<br /> But there is something missing, the giggle that came along<br />No one on the pool table, doing a spin<br /> No one saying, come look and see what I found<br />That extra laughter is missing from one loved so dear.<br /><br />Grandma hollers “come on lets pray”<br /> No the one who reminds us isn’t here today<br />The prayer is spoken wishing love for those missing<br /> Time to eat the food from deep preparation<br />Yet there’s a plate at the table that is missing.<br /><br />It’s time to play games<br /> Someone is playing in your spot<br />There’s the little red head<br /> And his hair not as dark<br />For you to be here is what we are wishing.<br /><br />Presents are being opened<br /> All opening and enjoying<br />That person who got more joy<br /> Out of what others received<br />His physical presence is what’s missing<br /><br />Home we all tread on to go<br /> Realizing no presents for him<br />Will be wrapped and placed under the tree<br /> For him that is in our hearts<br />But won’t be here living.<br /><br />Morning comes along and we open our eyes<br /> All to remember you won’t be jumping in<br />To yell “Santa came lets go”<br /> No, we won’t be able to say lets snuggle<br />And listen for the train whistle to blow,<br /> Before we feel the giving.<br /><br />Up from bed we arise with coffee in hand<br /> Then up to the cold and frozen place<br />To tell you we still care<br /> In hearts the hole is still there<br /><em>For ever it is you we will all be missing</em>.</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-3289749196436230542008-09-14T18:10:00.000-07:002008-09-14T18:15:46.881-07:00Don't Be Afraid to Say No and Take Some Time<strong><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#000099;"><em>"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe."</em></span></strong> <a href="http://www.quotationspage.com/quotes/Friedrich_Nietzsche/">Friedrich Nietzsche</a>German philosopher (1844 - 1900)<br /><br /> I chose this quote because often when one is dying or grieving society expects more than what we have to give. Often we are expected to move on as if nothing is happening or has even happend. This is where we need to use our voice for ourselves and others. Studies show it's important to have some time alone, rest is needed, so when you feel the need or see someone being pushed when they need to rest don't be afraid, speak up.... LaurieLaurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-42835710494594500012008-09-07T16:27:00.000-07:002008-09-07T16:30:02.382-07:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;font-size:130%;color:#000099;">"We draw our strength from the very despair in which we have been forced to live. We shall endure." -Cesar Chavez</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-40111551031757964352008-09-01T05:53:00.000-07:002008-09-01T05:59:04.902-07:00<span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;"><span style="color:#990000;"><span style="font-size:130%;">"It is helpful to remember that ego strength and growth come from struggle."</span> </span></span><br /><span style="font-family:trebuchet ms;color:#990000;"> -Sally Dunning, A.C.S.W. Family Styles Child Bereavement Project</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-41400104612695285762008-09-01T05:46:00.000-07:002008-09-01T05:52:48.012-07:00Welcome Aboard Howard Blake!<span style="font-size:130%;color:#003333;"> <span style="color:#003333;">Finding The Sun Again would like to welcome Howard Blake aboard!!! Howard has a great deal to offer Finding The Sun Again. This gentle man with a big heart has a passion for God, helping people in Hospice and working with people dealing with grief. Howard will be Laurie's co-facilitator in our first expeditions in Loss Support Groups.</span></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#003333;"> Howard, thank you for joining us in the conquest to help others find the tools that will work for them through hospice care and grief so that they may "Find the Sun Again"!!! </span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#003333;"> Laurie</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-89110398518608662502008-07-28T16:53:00.000-07:002008-11-01T05:36:27.824-07:00Grief BurstsSometimes we are moving along on our journey and it hits us. Don't know how; not even sure of when,,, the heart is aching again.. The chest is heavy, uncontrollable tears may have taken over and the nice beautiful day is now bleak. It's like having a freight train smacking you right in your face, no your entire body... I'm now angry, I was getting beyond this and here it is making me work harder again... <br /> Grief Burst. That's what it's called. It's normal and it just plain sucks.Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-60588548809697085352008-07-28T16:49:00.000-07:002008-07-28T17:09:45.507-07:00What Greggy would say<em><span style="font-size:180%;color:#663366;"><strong>"When you fall, keep the smile on your face, get back up and keep right on!"</strong></span></em><span style="color:#cc33cc;"> - <strong>Laurie L. Bayless</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#cc66cc;">I was looking at a picture of Greggy getting up from a fall with a smile on his face. The more I thought I heard him say this to me. It's how he lived his life and a behavior I hope to attain at all times someday...</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-3096544100828349882008-06-25T18:06:00.000-07:002008-06-25T18:20:42.944-07:00RemindersToday as I was in a rush to get to the heart center to take food to my caffeine/nicotene w/drawal husband I met a lady. Her and I arrived in line at the same time; she was very kind and offered to let me go first. I thanked her for allowing me to get to my cranky husband faster and she told me her story... This month is her hardest month of the year; not only her wedding anniversary but also the anniversary of her husband's death who died during open heart surgery. WOW. How could that be? It's amazing how God reminds me of my mission and not to stray from it. It's been 40 years that she has been putting one foot in front of the other and live life. 40 years of grief. I am even more grateful that everything looks good for my husbands achy heart. Stress... Stress of grief and holding it all back, it's exploding in his body as he tries to move on and make sure people don't see his pain and he contains it working so hard not to feel the pain.<br /> I urge my readers to stop and feel the pain, so they are able to feel the sun. To n0t run and keep being chased by the ugliness of it all. But to stand up, stand face to face with it... How? It depends on you and your needs. Hardest thing about grief, we are all unique and therefore how we deal, cope and greive are all very unique. Hopefully, I will help you find your own unique tools to figure out what will work best for you...<br /> Love to you all, LaurieLaurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-57684852404901703412008-05-14T20:10:00.000-07:002008-05-14T20:12:45.144-07:00<span style="color:#330033;">"That though the radiance which was once so bright be now forever taken from my sight. Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendor in the grass, glory in the flower. We will grieve not, rather find strength in what remains behind</span>. " <span style="color:#663366;"> -William Wordsworth</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-43548681603990264812008-05-12T11:52:00.000-07:002008-05-12T11:57:39.168-07:00<span style="font-size:130%;color:#990000;">"Tragedy is a tool for the living to gain wisdom, not a guide by which we live."</span> <span style="font-size:130%;"> - Robert Kennedy</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-26460725406320418122008-03-01T14:26:00.000-08:002008-03-01T14:27:29.482-08:00<span style="font-family:courier new;"><strong>"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight." - Proverbs 3:5-6 (TNIV)</strong></span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-89962227053560735652008-02-22T20:07:00.000-08:002008-02-22T20:09:44.661-08:00<span style="font-family:lucida grande;color:#000099;">"Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions."</span> <br /> <span style="color:#3366ff;">-Albert Einstein (1879-1955) Nobel Prize winner 1921<br /></span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-76050214577108369102008-02-22T20:02:00.000-08:002008-02-22T20:04:26.180-08:00<span style="font-family:georgia;font-size:130%;color:#ff0000;"><em><strong>"You create your own universe as you go along"</strong></em></span><br /> - Winston Churchill 1874-1965Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-9011571583456845892008-02-09T03:40:00.001-08:002008-02-16T20:44:21.032-08:00<span style="color:#cc0000;">"...everything can be taken from a person but one thing: the last of human freedoms - </span><span style="color:#cc0000;">to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances - to choose one's own way..." </span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">-Viktor Frankl, born 1905, </span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp from 1942 to 1945</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-8055484297854691452007-10-24T08:52:00.000-07:002007-10-24T08:54:16.967-07:00<span style="font-family:georgia;font-size:130%;color:#993399;"><strong>“Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers but to be fearless in facing them.<br /> Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain but for the heart to conquer it.<br /> Let me not look for allies in life’s battlefield but to my own strength.<br /> Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved but hope for the patience to win my freedom.<br /> Grant me that I may not be a coward, feeling your mercy in my success alone; but let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure” </strong></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#993399;"><strong></strong></span></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:georgia;color:#993399;"><strong>– Ranbindranath Tagore, “Fruit-Gathering” from “On Death and Dying”</strong></span> </span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-15814680137786707862007-10-24T08:41:00.000-07:002008-02-09T14:37:36.152-08:00<div align="center">"<a title="Click for further information about this quotation" href="http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/2558.html"><span style="font-family:verdana;font-size:130%;">You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.' You must do the thing you think you cannot do” – Eleanor Roosevelt</span></a> </div>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-55165121204424905752007-10-22T15:40:00.000-07:002007-10-22T15:43:00.708-07:00ASK FOR THE LADDER<span style="font-family:lucida grande;font-size:180%;color:#993399;">“Sometimes when you are deep down in the dark hole you must stop and ask your self: Am I going to grab the shovel or reach for help from a Higher Being and ask for the ladder to get back into the light?” – Laurie L. Bayless 10/21/07</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4538286025495247750.post-41241444078016046452007-10-19T11:06:00.000-07:002007-10-19T11:31:08.390-07:00Who Am I and Why This Blog?<span style="font-size:130%;color:#6600cc;"> My name is Laurie L. Bayless, student of grieving, wife, and the mother of four boys. The oldest born in 1987, the second 1990, the third 1993 and our recent Robert "Greggory" Bayless born September 30, 2003 who resides in Heaven as of January 31, 2006.</span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#6600cc;"> This is my first real blog which will be a growing experience and appreciate any advice and comments you may have to offer. I did create a blog at <a href="http://www.robertgreggorybayless.blogspot.com/">www.robertgreggorybayless.blogspot.com</a>, however, this was during a time of great grief and unfortunetly I still can't figure out how to access and update it (silly me). </span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#6600cc;"> I've created this blog to grow with the opportunities that God is bestowing upon me to support and comfort others either in grief or working with people who are grieving. I would like to see changes in how our country deals with grief, we are still stuck in pioneer days and it's too often to be kept in the dark. This curtain grief is to be held behind leaves our country with many struggles as little people are aware of how to help the grieving and the grieving are too often told that they are grieving wrong and need to stand and be strong. As a grieving mother, I believe people must realize that the parents of a child who has died, we are strong because we are still alive and breathing.</span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#6600cc;"> I thank all who read and all who interact. If you are grieving, know you are not alone and there is no right or wrong way to grieve, it is the hardest work you have in life.</span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#6600cc;"></span><br /><span style="font-size:130%;color:#6600cc;">Laurie</span>Laurie L. Bayless Creator/Founder of "Finding the Sun Again"http://www.blogger.com/profile/15863192641429315459noreply@blogger.com1